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Difficult Questions

Why by =sa-cool While questions come in all different shapes and sizes, we all learn in elementary school that they all are about one of these:

  • Who
  • What
  • Where
  • Why
  • When
  • How

All of these are straightforward, but some are definitely more difficult than others.

Why seems to carry the most weight out of all of these. It can either be the simplest question in the world…

Why did the dog lick my face when it had jam all over it?

While they may get a little tough when we’re younger, looking back they’re still relatively simple…

Why is the sky blue?

Of course, as we get older, the questions become increasingly more difficult to answer…

Why did she break up with me?

And tougher…

Why do I feel so alone?

The beauty though is that while the questions may have difficult answers, they don’t necessarily have to be difficult. Like some of the best questions worth asking ourselves every day…

Why am I so lucky to have this life?

Even questions about other people can really lift us up…

Why are we able to reconnect after years as though almost no time has passed?

Most of my blog posts tend to end with How or What questions. Things like…

What questions are you asking yourself that build you up?

or…

How are you wording your questions so that they lift your heart instead of confuse your mind?

But that’s mainly because the Why questions are so much harder to ask, and they force a lot more thinking on all of our parts. They’re more concrete and require us to really evaluate our life in specific ways, instead of thinking in generalities…

Why don’t you ask questions that build you up more often?

Peace,
Tom

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Missa said…
good post. I know i've always asked "down", never thougt of asking to lift up. cool idea.
April 24, 2009 at 10:02:00 AM EDT
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